Boob Grabbers

I remember one weekend I slept over at really good friend of mine’s apartment, we had a really awesome weekend together and the time had arrived for me to head back home. She lived in Randburg and it would take two taxis for me to get home, I got on the first taxi, which took me to Bree taxi rank, I got off the taxi and I proceeded to walk into the rank, as I walked through the rank, a very young looking man grabbed my right breast as he passed by and he just continued to stroll casually through the rank as if he hadn’t just harassed me, as if nothing happened. I paused for a few seconds, just out of utter shock and disgust, I looked back at him, so that he could see the disgust and disapproval in my face, but he didn’t care to look back. I continued walking to my taxi, I got into the taxi and I went home. For the rest of the day my breast felt strange, I felt strange, I was definitely upset and I was upset with myself too. Why didn’t I say anything? Why didn’t I call him out? Why didn’t I cuss him out? The answer to those questions is really simple, I was afraid. This man had the courage to grab my breast and continue walking on like like nothing happened,so if I said anything he could have probably knock me out. A few other incidents alike have taken place in my life but I don’t really even want to get into that, also lots of things have happened to too many women and girls that I know, aunts; cousins; sisters; friends. In South Africa we have an incredibly huge problem with sexual violence and gender based violence, this country is increasingly becoming an unsafe country for women and girls to live. Our fathers, uncles, brothers, cousins, husbands, boyfriends, colleagues, friends, neighbors, pastors, the guy that works at the post office, the one at pick n pay, the Uber driver and the ones driving our kids to school and everyone in between. They all contribute to this problem, they all need to acknowledge that they contribute to the problem and perpetrators need to be dealt with forcefully and with the utmost aggression.